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\u0130\u015f plan\u0131m\u0131zda olan bu a\u011fr\u0131l\u0131 m\u00f6vzunun ara\u015fd\u0131r\u0131lmas\u0131na T\u0259rt\u0259r Rayon Statistika \u0130dar\u0259sinin m\u00fcdiri \u018fdal\u0259t M\u0259mm\u0259dovla s\u00f6hb\u0259timd\u0259n ba\u015flad\u0131m. \u00d6yr\u0259ndim ki, 2017-ci ilin 6 ay\u0131 \u0259rzind\u0259 rayonumuzda 158 nikah v\u0259 63 bo\u015fanma hal\u0131 qeyd\u0259 al\u0131n\u0131b. Bo\u015fananlar nikaha gir\u0259nl\u0259rin 25 faizd\u0259n \u00e7oxunu t\u0259\u015fkil edir.\nBundan sonra T\u0259rt\u0259r Rayon M\u0259hk\u0259m\u0259sinin t\u0259cr\u00fcb\u0259li i\u015f\u00e7isi, 20 illik \u0259m\u0259k f\u0259aliyy\u0259ti \u0259rzind\u0259 y\u00fczl\u0259rl\u0259 ail\u0259nin da\u011f\u0131lmas\u0131n\u0131n \u015fahidi olan \u0130lqar \u018ff\u0259ndiyev\u0259 m\u00fcraci\u0259t edib, bo\u015fanma hallar\u0131n\u0131n \u0259sas s\u0259b\u0259bl\u0259ri haqq\u0131nda onun fikirl\u0259rini \u00f6yr\u0259ndim. \u0130lqar m\u00fc\u0259llim dedi:
\n\u2013\u018fvv\u0259lki ill\u0259rd\u0259 ail\u0259l\u0259r \u0259sas\u0259n \u00f6vlad\u0131n olmamas\u0131, erk\u0259n nikah, m\u0259i\u015f\u0259t zorak\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131 s\u0259b\u0259bl\u0259rind\u0259n da\u011f\u0131l\u0131rd\u0131sa, indi bunlar\u0131n say\u0131 azal\u0131b. Buna \u00f6lk\u0259 \u00fczr\u0259 apar\u0131lan maarifl\u0259ndirm\u0259 t\u0259dbirl\u0259rinin d\u0259 g\u00fccl\u00fc t\u0259siri var.
\n\u00d6n plana is\u0259 n\u0259l\u0259r ke\u00e7ir? \u0130lk n\u00f6vb\u0259d\u0259 maddi m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259l\u0259r. Bunun arxas\u0131nda is\u0259 s\u0259brsizlik, d\u00f6z\u00fcms\u00fczl\u00fck dayan\u0131r. Y\u0259ni g\u0259nc qad\u0131n yeni ail\u0259d\u0259 rastla\u015fd\u0131\u011f\u0131 maddi \u00e7\u0259tinlikl\u0259ri q\u0259bul etm\u0259k ist\u0259mir. Valideynl\u0259rin, x\u00fcsus\u0259n q\u0131z evinin yersiz m\u00fcdaxil\u0259l\u0259ri d\u0259 x\u0131rda \u00e7at\u0131\u015fmazl\u0131qlar\u0131n b\u00f6y\u00fcy\u00fcb problem\u0259 \u00e7evrilm\u0259sin\u0259 g\u0259tirib \u00e7\u0131xar\u0131r. Son zamanlar \u0259srin x\u0259st\u0259liyin\u0259 \u00e7evril\u0259n internet tan\u0131\u015fl\u0131qlar\u0131 da ail\u0259l\u0259rin da\u011f\u0131lmas\u0131na s\u0259b\u0259b olur. B\u0259la buras\u0131d\u0131r ki, internet vasit\u0259sil\u0259 yad ki\u015fil\u0259rl\u0259 tan\u0131\u015f olan iki-\u00fc\u00e7 u\u015faq analar\u0131 \u00f6z \u00f6vladlar\u0131n\u0131 atas\u0131z qoyaraq, virtual h\u0259yat\u0131n toruna d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcrl\u0259r. N\u0259tic\u0259d\u0259 ail\u0259 da\u011f\u0131l\u0131r, qad\u0131n aliment t\u0259l\u0259b edir, amma d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnm\u00fcr ki, bu aliment onun u\u015faqlar\u0131na ata qay\u011f\u0131s\u0131n\u0131, ail\u0259 b\u00fct\u00f6vl\u00fcy\u00fcn\u00fcn \u015firinliyini \u0259v\u0259z ed\u0259 bil\u0259c\u0259kmi?
\n\u0130lqar m\u00fc\u0259llim onu da qeyd etdi ki, c\u00fctl\u00fckl\u0259rin bar\u0131\u015fmas\u0131 \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn m\u0259hk\u0259m\u0259d\u0259 b\u00fct\u00fcn imkanlardan istifad\u0259 edirl\u0259r. Onlara vaxt verilir, izahat i\u015fl\u0259ri apar\u0131l\u0131r. \u018fr v\u0259 arvad bar\u0131\u015f\u0131\u011fa g\u0259lib iclas zal\u0131ndan qo\u015fa \u00e7\u0131xanda, onlardan da \u00e7ox m\u0259hk\u0259m\u0259 i\u015f\u00e7il\u0259ri sevinirl\u0259r.
\nN\u00f6vb\u0259ti m\u00fcsahibim ruhani Saleh \u018fdilov oldu. Saleh dedi:
\n\u2013Ail\u0259d\u0259 maddi \u00e7\u0259tinlik olark\u0259n s\u0259br g\u00f6st\u0259rm\u0259k laz\u0131md\u0131r. \u00c7\u00fcnki bu, ham\u0131n\u0131n ba\u015f\u0131na g\u0259l\u0259 bil\u0259c\u0259k bir i\u015fdir. \u018fziz Pey\u011f\u0259mb\u0259rimiz (s) q\u0131z\u0131 Fatim\u0259y\u0259 buyururdu: \u201cQ\u0131z\u0131m, \u018flid\u0259n he\u00e7 n\u0259 ist\u0259m\u0259, ver\u0259 bilm\u0259z, utanar\u201d. T\u0259\u0259ss\u00fcf ki, bu g\u00f6z\u0259l a\u011fsaqqal t\u00f6vsiy\u0259sini indi bir \u00e7ox valideynl\u0259r unudublar. Onlardan b\u0259zil\u0259ri is\u0259 \u00f6vlad\u0131na d\u00fczg\u00fcn yol g\u00f6st\u0259rm\u0259k \u0259v\u0259zin\u0259, sanki \u201ck\u00f6z\u00fc alovland\u0131rma\u011fa\u201d \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131rlar.
\nBu s\u00f6zl\u0259ri b\u00fct\u00fcn ana-atalar haqq\u0131nda dem\u0259k olmaz. H\u0259yat g\u00f6st\u0259rir ki, \u0259ks\u0259r hallarda ya\u015fl\u0131 adam\u0131n t\u0259cr\u00fcb\u0259si cavan\u0131n g\u00fcc\u00fc il\u0259 birl\u0259\u015f\u0259nd\u0259 m\u00f6c\u00fcz\u0259l\u0259r yaran\u0131r. Ona g\u00f6r\u0259 d\u0259 b\u00fct\u00fcn q\u0131zlara t\u00f6vsiy\u0259m budur ki, ail\u0259 qurduqda d\u00fc\u015fd\u00fckl\u0259ri oca\u011f\u0131n a\u011fsaqqal\u0131na, a\u011fbir\u00e7\u0259yin\u0259 h\u00f6rm\u0259tl\u0259 yana\u015fs\u0131nlar, b\u00f6y\u00fcy\u00fcn s\u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc e\u015fitsinl\u0259r. El\u0259 o\u011fullar da h\u0259r iki t\u0259r\u0259fin valideynl\u0259rin\u0259 ehtiram g\u00f6st\u0259rs\u0259l\u0259r, h\u0259m \u00f6z ail\u0259l\u0259ri m\u00f6hk\u0259m olar, h\u0259m d\u0259 \u00f6vladlar\u0131na g\u00f6z\u0259l n\u00fcmun\u0259y\u0259 \u00e7evril\u0259rl\u0259r.
\nN\u0259hay\u0259t, sonuncu m\u00fcsahibim Azadqaraqoyunlu k\u0259ndinin sakini N\u00fcbar M\u0259d\u0259tli oldu. A\u011fbir\u00e7\u0259k ana a\u015fa\u011f\u0131dak\u0131 fikirl\u0259ri s\u00f6yl\u0259di:
\n\u2013Cavanlara s\u00f6z\u00fcm budur ki, ail\u0259y\u0259 ciddi m\u00fcnasib\u0259t b\u0259sl\u0259sinl\u0259r. Ail\u0259 qurmaq asand\u0131r, onu qoruyub saxlamaq \u00e7\u0259tin. \u0130ki n\u0259f\u0259r bir-birinin xasiyy\u0259tini \u00f6yr\u0259nib q\u0259bul ed\u0259n\u0259d\u0259k m\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259n vaxt t\u0259l\u0259b olunur, ona g\u00f6r\u0259 d\u0259 bu m\u00fcdd\u0259td\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131l\u0131ql\u0131 g\u00fcz\u0259\u015ft \u00e7ox vacibdir. Valideynl\u0259ri d\u0259 unutmay\u0131n. Bu g\u00fcn siz onlara g\u00f6st\u0259rdiyiniz m\u00fcnasib\u0259ti \u00f6vladlar\u0131n\u0131z da siz\u0259 g\u00f6st\u0259r\u0259c\u0259kl\u0259r.
\nOxucular\u0131m\u0131za bir qad\u0131ndan e\u015fitdiyim s\u00f6hb\u0259ti xat\u0131rlatmaq ist\u0259yir\u0259m. \u018frinin x\u0259yan\u0259t etdiyini bil\u0259n bu qad\u0131n do\u011fmalar\u0131n\u0131n bo\u015fanmaq haqq\u0131nda t\u0259kidl\u0259rin\u0259 bel\u0259 cavab vermi\u015fdir:
\n\u2013M\u0259nim \u00f6z\u00fcmd\u0259n d\u0259 art\u0131q sevdiyim \u00f6vladlar\u0131m var. Hans\u0131sa \u00f6t\u0259ri bir s\u0259hv ucbat\u0131ndan m\u0259n onlar\u0131 atas\u0131z qoya bilm\u0259r\u0259m.
\nO qad\u0131n\u0131n \u00f6vladlar\u0131 indi b\u00f6y\u00fcy\u00fcb, c\u0259miyy\u0259td\u0259 g\u00f6z\u0259l m\u00f6vqe tutublar. H\u0259r birinin n\u00fcmun\u0259vi ail\u0259si var. Atal\u0131-anal\u0131 d\u00fcnyalar\u0131na g\u00f6r\u0259 onlar h\u0259mi\u015f\u0259 \u00f6z analar\u0131na minn\u0259tdard\u0131lar.<\/p>\n