{"id":28101,"date":"2024-09-11T11:31:00","date_gmt":"2024-09-11T08:31:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/yeniterter.az\/?p=28101"},"modified":"2024-09-11T11:31:00","modified_gmt":"2024-09-11T08:31:00","slug":"bu-bar%c9%99d%c9%99-dusunm%c9%99k-lazimdir-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/yeniterter.az\/?p=28101","title":{"rendered":"Bu bar\u0259d\u0259 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnm\u0259k laz\u0131md\u0131r"},"content":{"rendered":"

U\u015eAQLARDA AQRESS\u0130YA N\u018fD\u018fN YARANIR?<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"\"Son zamanlar biz analar\u0131n u\u015faqlarda \u0259n \u00e7ox narahat oldu\u011fumuz, \u015fikay\u0259tl\u0259ndiyimiz v\u0259ziyy\u0259tl\u0259rind\u0259n biri d\u0259 bir anda onlar\u0131n d\u0259yi\u015fm\u0259si, aqressiv olmas\u0131, n\u0259yis\u0259 t\u00f6k\u00fcb da\u011f\u0131tmalar\u0131, q\u0131rmalar\u0131d\u0131r. B\u0259z\u0259n anlaya bilmirik ki, n\u0259 ba\u015f verir? Bu zaman n\u0259 etm\u0259liyik v\u0259 ya buna s\u0259b\u0259b n\u0259 olur? Ax\u0131, h\u0259r \u015feyin bir s\u0259b\u0259bi olur. U\u015faqlarda aqressiyan\u0131 yaradan s\u0259b\u0259b n\u0259dir?
\nH\u0259r bir \u015feyin ba\u015flan\u011f\u0131c\u0131 ail\u0259d\u0259n g\u0259ls\u0259 d\u0259, b\u0259z\u0259n \u0259tarf m\u00fchitin d\u0259 z\u0259r\u0259rli t\u0259r\u0259fl\u0259ri u\u015faqlara t\u0259sir g\u00f6st\u0259r\u0259 bilir. X\u00fcsusil\u0259 u\u015faqlar\u0131n aqressiv olmalar\u0131 t\u0259k ail\u0259yl\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131 deyil. B\u0259z\u0259n biz analar bunu d\u0259rk ed\u0259 bilmirik. H\u0259yat\u0131n qovhaqovunda u\u015faqlar\u0131m\u0131za laz\u0131m\u0131nca \u00f6n\u0259m ver\u0259 bilmirik, onlarla bolluca zaman ke\u00e7ir\u0259 bilmirik. \u00c7\u00f6ld\u0259ki probleml\u0259rimizi ev\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r g\u0259tirib \u00e7\u0131xar\u0131r\u0131q v\u0259 \u00f6vladlar\u0131m\u0131z da buna \u015fahid olur.
\nB\u0259z\u0259n is\u0259 bu, t\u0259k ail\u0259yl\u0259, m\u00fchitl\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131 olmur, s\u0131rf u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n \u00f6z\u00fcyl\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131 olur. \u00dcmumiyy\u0259tl\u0259, u\u015faqlarda aqressiya, g\u0259rginlik kimi hallar onlar \u00f6zl\u0259rini ifad\u0259 ed\u0259 bilm\u0259y\u0259nd\u0259 d\u0259 ba\u015f verir. M\u0259s\u0259l\u0259n, h\u0259l\u0259 dan\u0131\u015fa bilm\u0259y\u0259n u\u015faq n\u0259yis\u0259 dey\u0259 bilmir, ba\u015fa sal\u0131r, valideyn onu anlamayanda is\u0259 o \u0259s\u0259bl\u0259\u015fir. Ba\u015flay\u0131r a\u011flama\u011fa . Ya\u015f sindromlar\u0131nda da aqressiya \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc b\u00fcruz\u0259 verir. \u018fn \u00e7ox 3 ya\u015f sindromunda bunu g\u00f6r\u00fcr\u00fck. Bu ya\u015fda u\u015faq daha \u00e7ox \u00f6yr\u0259nm\u0259y\u0259 meylli olur. U\u015fa\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n mara\u011f\u0131 v\u0259 bizim \u201colmaz\u0131m\u0131z\u201d aras\u0131nda qar\u015f\u0131durma yaran\u0131r. Biz valideynl\u0259r bunun h\u0259llini tapa bilm\u0259dikd\u0259 u\u015faqda q\u0259z\u0259b hissi yaran\u0131r. Bel\u0259 olanda u\u015faq aqressivl\u0259\u015fir. Yeniyetm\u0259lik ya\u015f sindromlar\u0131 da b\u0259z\u0259n bunlardan qaynaqlan\u0131r. M\u00fchit d\u0259yi\u015fk\u0259nliyi olanda da bel\u0259 hallar olur. Bizim \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn adi g\u0259l\u0259n \u015feyl\u0259r u\u015faqlar \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn b\u0259z\u0259n a\u011f\u0131r olur. Yax\u0131n adam\u0131n\u0131 itirm\u0259yin, ev d\u0259yi\u015fm\u0259nin, n\u0259n\u0259-babayla ya\u015fayan bir u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n bird\u0259n-bir\u0259 onlardan ayr\u0131lmas\u0131n\u0131n t\u0259siri olur. \u00d6yr\u0259\u015fdiyi \u0259\u015fyalar, evin qoxusu, t\u0259bii ki, bu, onu narahat edir. \u018fvv\u0259l v\u0259rdi\u015f etdiyi, oynad\u0131\u011f\u0131 oyuncaqlar\u0131n yeri d\u0259yi\u015fir v\u0259 onu tapmayanda aqressivl\u0259\u015fir, \u0259traf\u0131na, b\u0259z\u0259n d\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259 z\u0259r\u0259r verir. Ba\u015flay\u0131r oyuncaqlar\u0131n\u0131 q\u0131rma\u011fa v\u0259 ya evd\u0259 hans\u0131sa \u0259\u015fayaya ziyan vurur. B\u0259z\u0259n valideynl\u0259rini di\u015fl\u0259yir, \u00e7imdikl\u0259yir, q\u0131\u015fq\u0131r\u0131r. Bu, biz\u0259 o q\u0259d\u0259r d\u0259 a\u011f\u0131r g\u0259lm\u0259s\u0259 d\u0259, bir u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnc\u0259si \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn a\u011f\u0131r olur. Bel\u0259 hadis\u0259l\u0259r u\u015faqlarda travma yarad\u0131r v\u0259 zaman ke\u00e7dikc\u0259, bu, \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc b\u00fcruz\u0259 verm\u0259y\u0259 ba\u015flay\u0131r. Ya ba\u011f\u00e7a h\u0259yatlar\u0131nda, ya da m\u0259kt\u0259bd\u0259, b\u0259z\u0259n is\u0259 daha uzunm\u00fcdd\u0259tli olur. Ona g\u00f6r\u0259 d\u0259 valideynl\u0259r buna n\u0259zar\u0259t etm\u0259lidirl\u0259r. Daima bu y\u00fck\u00fc t\u0259k anaya y\u00fckl\u0259m\u0259k olmaz, atalar da ana-larla b\u0259rab\u0259r u\u015faqlar\u0131na vaxt ay\u0131rmal\u0131d\u0131rlar. Onlarla oyun oynasalar, sevgi g\u00f6st\u0259rs\u0259l\u0259r, u\u015faqlar yeni m\u00fchit\u0259 daha tez \u00f6yr\u0259\u015f\u0259rl\u0259r.
\nBug\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fcn \u0259n b\u00f6y\u00fck problemi sosial \u015f\u0259b\u0259k\u0259l\u0259rdir. B\u0259z\u0259n analar \u00f6z rahatl\u0131qlar\u0131 \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn, u\u015faqlar sakit dursun dey\u0259, onlara telefon verirl\u0259r. Orada rastla\u015fd\u0131qlar\u0131 m\u0259nfi bir hadis\u0259 d\u0259 u\u015fa\u011fa t\u0259sir ed\u0259 bilir. Onun d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnc\u0259sin\u0259 m\u0259nfi \u015feyl\u0259r y\u00fckl\u0259yir. Biz u\u015faqlara cizgi filmi a\u00e7\u0131r\u0131q ki, baxs\u0131nlar. Ancaq x\u0131rda \u015feyl\u0259r\u0259 fikir vermirik. Orada h\u0259r hans\u0131 bir heyvana, u\u015fa\u011fa, oyunca\u011fa olunan zorak\u0131l\u0131q hadis\u0259si bel\u0259 onlara pis t\u0259sir edir.
\nYa da u\u015faq valideyn sevgisizliyind\u0259n, \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259 diqq\u0259t \u00e7\u0259km\u0259k \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn a\u011flay\u0131r, narahat\u00e7\u0131l\u0131q yarad\u0131r. Bunu \u0259n \u00e7ox diqq\u0259td\u0259n k\u0259narda qalan u\u015faqlar edirl\u0259r. Onlar valideyn sevgisi, qay\u011f\u0131s\u0131 g\u00f6zl\u0259yirl\u0259r. Onlar\u0131sa almayanda aqressivl\u0259\u015firl\u0259r.
\nBiz analar unutmayaq ki, n\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r yor\u011fun olsaq da, biz\u0259 m\u00f6htac olan k\u00f6rp\u0259l\u0259rimiz var.
\nAqressiyan\u0131 aradan qald\u0131rmaq \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn \u00f6nc\u0259 onun s\u0259b\u0259bini bilm\u0259k laz\u0131md\u0131r. U\u015faq n\u0259 \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn bel\u0259 davran\u0131r? \u018fg\u0259r u\u015faq evd\u0259 normal, m\u0259kt\u0259bd\u0259 el\u0259dirs\u0259, dem\u0259k ki, problem m\u0259kt\u0259bd\u0259dir. U\u015faqlar bu aqressiyan\u0131 is\u0259 \u00e7ox zaman heyvanlardan, oyuncaqlardan, \u00f6zl\u0259rind\u0259n balaca, z\u0259if u\u015faqlardan \u00e7\u0131x\u0131rlar. Onun k\u00f6k\u00fcn\u00fc tap\u0131b h\u0259ll etdikd\u0259 n\u0259 u\u015fa\u011fa, n\u0259 \u0259tarafa, n\u0259 d\u0259 ail\u0259y\u0259 ziyan d\u0259ymir. Ona g\u00f6r\u0259 d\u0259 valideynl\u0259r vaxta\u015f\u0131r\u0131 m\u00fc\u0259lliml\u0259rl\u0259 dan\u0131\u015fmal\u0131, u\u015faqlar\u0131n\u0131n davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6yr\u0259nm\u0259lidirl\u0259r.
\nB\u0259z\u0259n ail\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 ba\u015f ver\u0259n konfliktl\u0259r d\u0259 u\u015faqlara t\u0259sir edir. Anayla atan\u0131n, n\u0259n\u0259yl\u0259 baban\u0131n evd\u0259 davas\u0131 onlara m\u0259nfi emosiyalar y\u00fckl\u0259yir. Bel\u0259 u\u015faqlar \u015fidd\u0259t\u0259 meyilli olur. Bunu c\u0259miyy\u0259t aras\u0131nda da edirl\u0259r. Ona g\u00f6r\u0259 n\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r problemimiz olsa da, u\u015faqlar\u0131n g\u00f6zl\u0259ri qar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda, onlar\u0131n e\u015fid\u0259c\u0259kl\u0259ri yerd\u0259 bunu etm\u0259m\u0259liyik. Bunlar u\u015faqda \u00e7ox b\u00f6y\u00fck travmalara s\u0259b\u0259b olur. Vaxt\u0131nda bunu m\u00fcalic\u0259 etm\u0259dikd\u0259 is\u0259 \u00e7ox b\u00f6y\u00fck probleml\u0259r\u0259 yol a\u00e7\u0131r.
\nB\u0259z\u0259n u\u015faqlar n\u0259 is\u0259 bir \u015feyi \u0259ld\u0259 etm\u0259kd\u0259n \u00f6tr\u00fc d\u0259 a\u011flay\u0131rlar. \u00c7\u00fcnki onu yoxlay\u0131blar. Anas\u0131yla ma\u011fazaya ged\u0259n u\u015faq ist\u0259diyini ald\u0131rmaq \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn a\u011flay\u0131r, \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc yer\u0259 \u00e7\u0131rp\u0131r, ana is\u0259 orada pis olmamaqdan \u00f6t\u0259ri u\u015fa\u011fn\u0131n ist\u0259diyini al\u0131r. Bu, v\u0259rdi\u015f hal\u0131n\u0131 al\u0131r.
\nBu c\u00fcr m\u0259nfi hallar\u0131n ba\u015f verm\u0259m\u0259si \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn ail\u0259l\u0259r ilk n\u00f6vb\u0259d\u0259 u\u015faqlar\u0131 qalmaqallardan, m\u00fcbahis\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259n uzaq tutmal\u0131d\u0131r. Onlarla zaman ke\u00e7irm\u0259li, oyunlar oynamal\u0131, \u0259yl\u0259nc\u0259 m\u0259rk\u0259zl\u0259rin\u0259 aparmal\u0131d\u0131rlar. \u015eidd\u0259t olan cizgi filml\u0259rind\u0259n, kinolardan uzaq tutmal\u0131d\u0131rlar. Onlarla \u00f6z t\u0259cr\u00fcb\u0259l\u0259rimizi b\u00f6l\u00fc\u015fm\u0259li, sevincli g\u00fcnl\u0259rimizd\u0259n, s\u0259hvl\u0259rimizd\u0259n, u\u015faql\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zdan, u\u015faq-valideyn m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rind\u0259n dan\u0131\u015fmal\u0131y\u0131q. \u018fn \u0259sas\u0131, onlar\u0131 dinl\u0259m\u0259yi bacarmal\u0131y\u0131q. Onlar\u0131n da fikirl\u0259rin\u0259, d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnc\u0259l\u0259rin\u0259 \u00f6n\u0259m verm\u0259liyik. B\u0259z\u0259n icaz\u0259 verm\u0259liyik onlar \u00f6z se\u00e7dikl\u0259ri yolla getsinl\u0259r. Onlara da bir f\u0259rd kimi yana\u015fma\u011f\u0131 \u00f6yr\u0259nm\u0259liyik. N\u0259 etm\u0259k laz\u0131m olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 s\u00f6yl\u0259m\u0259k yerin\u0259, nec\u0259 etm\u0259k laz\u0131m oldu\u011funu dem\u0259liyik. \u0130st\u0259m\u0259dikl\u0259ri he\u00e7 bir \u015feyi biz\u0259 xo\u015f olacaq dey\u0259 etm\u0259m\u0259liyik. \u00c7ox t\u0259zyiq alt\u0131nda olanda da u\u015faq aqqressiv davran\u0131r. Ba\u015fa d\u00fc\u015fm\u0259liyik ki, ya\u015f\u0131ndan as\u0131l\u0131 olmayaraq, onlar bir f\u0259rddirl\u0259r, he\u00e7 kimin yan\u0131nda, k\u0259nar \u015f\u0259xsl\u0259rin qar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda onlar\u0131n \u00fcst\u00fcn\u0259 q\u0131\u015fq\u0131rmaq, ac\u0131 s\u00f6z dem\u0259k olmaz.
\nG\u0259lin g\u0259l\u0259c\u0259yimiz olan u\u015faqlar\u0131 d\u00fczg\u00fcn t\u0259rbiy\u0259 ed\u0259k. Onlara n\u0259yin z\u0259r\u0259rli, n\u0259yin xeyirli oldu\u011funu \u0259yani n\u00fcmun\u0259mizl\u0259 ba\u015fa salaq. B\u00f6y\u00fckl\u0259r\u0259 h\u00f6rm\u0259t etm\u0259yi \u00f6yr\u0259d\u0259k. \u00d6z yollar\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6zl\u0259rinin se\u00e7m\u0259yin\u0259 icaz\u0259 ver\u0259k.<\/p>\n

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U\u015eAQLARDA AQRESS\u0130YA N\u018fD\u018fN YARANIR? Son zamanlar biz analar\u0131n u\u015faqlarda \u0259n \u00e7ox narahat oldu\u011fumuz, \u015fikay\u0259tl\u0259ndiyimiz v\u0259ziyy\u0259tl\u0259rind\u0259n biri d\u0259 bir anda onlar\u0131n d\u0259yi\u015fm\u0259si, aqressiv olmas\u0131, n\u0259yis\u0259 t\u00f6k\u00fcb da\u011f\u0131tmalar\u0131, q\u0131rmalar\u0131d\u0131r. B\u0259z\u0259n anlaya bilmirik ki, n\u0259 ba\u015f verir? Bu zaman n\u0259 etm\u0259liyik v\u0259 ya buna s\u0259b\u0259b n\u0259 olur? Ax\u0131, h\u0259r \u015feyin bir s\u0259b\u0259bi olur. U\u015faqlarda aqressiyan\u0131 yaradan s\u0259b\u0259b n\u0259dir? […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[10],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/yeniterter.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/28101"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/yeniterter.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/yeniterter.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/yeniterter.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/yeniterter.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=28101"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/yeniterter.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/28101\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":28103,"href":"https:\/\/yeniterter.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/28101\/revisions\/28103"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/yeniterter.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=28101"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/yeniterter.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=28101"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/yeniterter.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=28101"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}