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\"\"Haz\u0131rda valideynl\u0259rin tez-tez: \u201cbizim d\u00f6vr\u00fcm\u00fczd\u0259 yeniyetm\u0259l\u0259r bel\u0259 deyildi. Biz bel\u0259 h\u0259r\u0259k\u0259tl\u0259r etm\u0259zdik. Biz bu c\u00fcr dan\u0131\u015fmazd\u0131q\u201d kimi fikirl\u0259rl\u0259 \u00f6vladlar\u0131n\u0131 t\u0259nqid etdikl\u0259rinin \u015fahidi oluruq.\u00c7ox q\u0259rib\u0259dir ki, h\u0259r d\u00f6vr\u00fcn orta ya\u015fl\u0131 ata v\u0259 anas\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr ki, onlar \u00f6z d\u00f6vrl\u0259rind\u0259 f\u0259rqli olublar. M\u0259s\u0259l\u0259 buras\u0131ndad\u0131r ki, h\u0259r bir d\u00f6vr\u00fcn yeniyetm\u0259si v\u0259 g\u0259nci \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259 daha \u00e7ox b\u0259nz\u0259yir, n\u0259inki ke\u00e7mi\u015f\u0259. Ke\u00e7mi\u015fin onlar\u0131 q\u0259bul ed\u0259 bilm\u0259m\u0259sinin s\u0259b\u0259bi is\u0259 valideynl\u0259rin m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259y\u0259 subyektiv yana\u015fmas\u0131d\u0131r. \u018fslind\u0259 ill\u0259rdir ki, valideynl\u0259rin yeniyetm\u0259l\u0259rl\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131 \u015fikay\u0259tl\u0259rinin s\u0259b\u0259bi d\u0259 m\u0259hz bunlard\u0131r.
\nBildiyimiz kimi, yeniyetm\u0259lik d\u00f6vr\u00fc 11-12 ya\u015fdan ba\u015flayaraq 14-15 ya\u015fad\u0259k orta m\u0259kt\u0259bin be\u015finci-s\u0259kkizinci sinif \u015fagirdl\u0259rini \u0259hat\u0259 edir .11-13 ya\u015fl\u0131 o\u011flan v\u0259 q\u0131zlar\u0131 ad\u0259t\u0259n ki\u00e7ik yeniyetm\u0259 ,13-15 ya\u015fl\u0131lar\u0131 is\u0259 b\u00f6y\u00fck yeniyetm\u0259 adland\u0131r\u0131rlar, lakin yeniyetm\u0259lik d\u00f6vr\u00fcn\u00fcn ba\u015flanmas\u0131na v\u0259 qurtarmas\u0131na d\u0259qiq s\u0259rh\u0259d qoymaq olmaz. M\u00fcxt\u0259lif amill\u0259rin t\u0259siri alt\u0131nda h\u0259min ya\u015f d\u00f6vr\u00fc bir il tez v\u0259 ya gec ba\u015flaya, yaxud \u0259ksin\u0259, bir il v\u0259 ya gec ba\u015fa \u00e7ata bil\u0259r. Bu d\u00f6vr \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fcn praktik \u0259h\u0259miyy\u0259ti, pedaqoji \u00e7\u0259tinlikl\u0259ri v\u0259 u\u015faq \u015f\u0259xsiyy\u0259tinin dinamikas\u0131nda ba\u015f ver\u0259n psixoloji x\u00fcsusiyy\u0259tl\u0259ri il\u0259 diqq\u0259ti c\u0259lb edir. Yeniyetm\u0259lik d\u00f6vr\u00fcn\u00fcn \u0259sas x\u00fcsusiyy\u0259tl\u0259ri u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n \u00f6z \u201cm\u0259n\u201dini qabartmas\u0131, he\u00e7 k\u0259si q\u0259bul etm\u0259m\u0259si v\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fcn fikirl\u0259rinin h\u0259r k\u0259sinkind\u0259n daha d\u00fczg\u00fcn hesab etm\u0259sidir.
\nSadalanan bu fikirl\u0259r valideynl\u0259r\u0259 s\u00f6z\u00fcn \u0259sl m\u0259nas\u0131nda d\u0259h\u015f\u0259tli g\u0259lir. D\u00fcn\u0259n\u0259d\u0259k u\u015faq sayd\u0131\u011f\u0131, asanl\u0131qla \u00f6z fikirl\u0259rini yeritdiyi v\u0259 y\u00f6nl\u0259ndir\u0259 bildiyi \u00f6vlad\u0131 il\u0259 \u00fcnsiyy\u0259t qurmaq valideyn \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn m\u00fc\u015fk\u00fcl\u0259 \u00e7evrilir. Valideynl\u0259 yeniyetm\u0259 \u00f6vlad\u0131 aras\u0131nda \u0259n k\u0259skin konfliktl\u0259r daha \u00e7ox erk\u0259n yeniyetm\u0259lik d\u00f6vr\u00fcn\u0259 t\u0259sad\u00fcf edir. Ata-ana \u00e7a\u015fq\u0131nl\u0131\u011fa d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr v\u0259 n\u0259 ed\u0259c\u0259yini bilmir. B\u0259s ata-ana \u00f6vlad\u0131n\u0131n yeniyetm\u0259lik ya\u015f d\u00f6vr\u00fcn\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259m qoydu\u011funu n\u0259d\u0259n bilm\u0259lidir?
\n\"\"A\u015fa\u011f\u0131dak\u0131 \u0259lam\u0259tl\u0259r\u0259 fikir ver\u0259k:<\/strong>
\n*S\u0259sin qal\u0131nla\u015fmas\u0131 v\u0259 ya d\u0259yi\u015fm\u0259si <\/strong>
\n*T\u0259r v\u0259zil\u0259rinin aktivl\u0259\u015fm\u0259si<\/strong>
\n*B\u0259d\u0259nd\u0259 fizioloji d\u0259yi\u015fiklikl\u0259r<\/strong>
\n*B\u0259d\u0259n s\u0259thind\u0259 t\u00fckl\u0259rin s\u0259rtl\u0259\u015fm\u0259si<\/strong>
\n*U\u015fa\u011f\u0131n \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fcn xarici g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fc\u015f\u00fc il\u0259 h\u0259ddind\u0259n art\u0131q maraqlanmas\u0131<\/strong>
\n*Geyim v\u0259 dan\u0131\u015f\u0131q t\u0259rzind\u0259 ba\u015f ver\u0259n d\u0259yi\u015fiklikl\u0259r <\/strong>
\n*M\u00fcdaxil\u0259l\u0259r\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131 veril\u0259n s\u0259rt reaksiya<\/strong>
\n*T\u0259nqid\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131 k\u0259skin reaksiya<\/strong>
\n*Ya\u015f\u0131dlar\u0131na v\u0259 sosial m\u00fchit\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131 sonsuz maraq<\/strong>
\n*\u018fks cins\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131 meyil<\/strong>
\nValideynl\u0259ri v\u0259 m\u00fc\u0259lliml\u0259ri il\u0259 daha \u00e7ox konfliktl\u0259r yeni-yetm\u0259 \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn \u0259n q\u0259buledilm\u0259z \u015fey onu t\u0259nqid etm\u0259kdir. Yetkin insanlar\u0131n bu ya\u015f d\u00f6vr\u00fcnd\u0259 olan \u00f6vlad\u0131n\u0131 anlamas\u0131 \u00e7ox \u00e7\u0259tindir. Buna g\u00f6r\u0259 d\u0259 onlar yeniyetm\u0259ni d\u0259yi\u015fm\u0259k \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn t\u0259nqid etm\u0259y\u0259 ba\u015flay\u0131rlar. D\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcrl\u0259r ki, t\u0259nqidd\u0259 fayda var. Halbuki valideynin h\u0259min ya\u015f d\u00f6vr\u00fcnd\u0259 olan \u00f6vlad\u0131n\u0131 t\u0259nqid etm\u0259si onlar\u0131 h\u0259r g\u00fcn bir az da valideynl\u0259rd\u0259n uzaqla\u015fd\u0131r\u0131r v\u0259 yadla\u015fd\u0131r\u0131r. Yeniyetm\u0259 bu zaman daha t\u0259hl\u00fck\u0259li olur. Ail\u0259sind\u0259n qopan yeniyetm\u0259l\u0259r k\u0259nar destruktiv qruplara meyil g\u00f6st\u0259rirl\u0259r ki, bu da onlar\u0131n neqativ v\u0259rdi\u015fl\u0259r\u0259 yiy\u0259l\u0259nm\u0259si il\u0259 n\u0259tic\u0259l\u0259nir.
\nYeniyetm\u0259lik d\u00f6vr\u00fcn\u00fc \u201cd\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f d\u00f6vr\u00fc\u201d v\u0259 \u201cb\u00f6hran d\u00f6vr\u00fc\u201d d\u0259 adland\u0131r\u0131rlar. S\u00f6zs\u00fcz ki, bu adlar \u00e7oxlu\u011funun yaranmas\u0131 tamamil\u0259 t\u0259bii xarakter da\u015f\u0131y\u0131r. U\u015faq \u00f6z h\u0259yat\u0131n\u0131n bir m\u0259rh\u0259l\u0259sind\u0259n dig\u0259rin\u0259 yeniyetm\u0259liy\u0259 ke\u00e7ir. Bu vaxt ist\u0259r fiziki, ist\u0259rs\u0259 d\u0259 psixi inki\u015fafda s\u00fcr\u0259tli ir\u0259lil\u0259yi\u015fl\u0259r \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc g\u00f6st\u0259rir.Yeniyetm\u0259l\u0259rin \u0259sas probleml\u0259rind\u0259n biri valideynl\u0259rl\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131l\u0131ql\u0131 m\u00fcnasib\u0259td\u0259 yaranan anla\u015f\u0131lmazl\u0131qlard\u0131r. Bu ya\u015f d\u00f6vr\u00fcnd\u0259 yeniyetm\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 u\u015faql\u0131q as\u0131l\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131ndan \u00e7\u0131xmaq v\u0259 valideynl\u0259rl\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131l\u0131ql\u0131 inam, h\u00f6rm\u0259t, etibar v\u0259 s. kimi m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259r\u0259 ke\u00e7m\u0259y\u0259 t\u0259l\u0259bat yaran\u0131r. Valideynl\u0259r is\u0259 \u0259ksin\u0259, inki\u015faf ed\u0259n bel\u0259 bir b\u0259rab\u0259rliy\u0259 meyilli olmurlar.
\nValideyn-\u00f6vlad m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rind\u0259 anla\u015f\u0131lmazl\u0131qlar \u0259v-v\u0259ll\u0259r d\u0259 olub, ancaq o d\u00f6vrl\u0259rd\u0259 h\u0259yat t\u0259rzi bir q\u0259d\u0259r qapal\u0131 idi. Haz\u0131rki d\u00f6vr\u00fcm\u00fczd\u0259 is\u0259, \u00e7ox t\u0259\u0259ss\u00fcf ki, valideyn \u2013\u00f6vlad m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259ri getdikc\u0259 g\u0259rginl\u0259\u015fib. Burada g\u00fcnah\u0131 t\u0259kc\u0259 u\u015faqlar\u0131n \u00fcst\u00fcn\u0259 atmaq olmaz. S\u00f6hb\u0259t \u0259g\u0259r qar\u015f\u0131l\u0131ql\u0131 h\u00f6rm\u0259t v\u0259 d\u00fczg\u00fcn t\u0259rbiy\u0259d\u0259n gedirs\u0259, bu m\u0259suliyy\u0259tli v\u0259zif\u0259 \u0259sas\u0259n valideynl\u0259rin \u00fcz\u0259rin\u0259 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr. Bel\u0259 ki, valideynin u\u015fa\u011fa nisb\u0259t\u0259n daha \u00e7ox h\u0259yat t\u0259cr\u00fcb\u0259si var. Bir ail\u0259d\u0259 ki, valideynl\u0259r \u00f6vladlar\u0131na qar\u015f\u0131 \u015fidd\u0259t v\u0259 zorak\u0131l\u0131q n\u00fcmayi\u015f etdirirl\u0259r, t\u0259bii ki o ail\u0259d\u0259 b\u00f6y\u00fcy\u0259n u\u015faqlarda m\u0259n\u0259vi-psixoloji travmalar yaranmas\u0131 ehtimal\u0131 \u00e7oxdur. Bundan \u0259lav\u0259 \u0259ks\u0259r ail\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 analar u\u015faqlar\u0131 ata il\u0259 qorxudurlar. Bu ya\u015f d\u00f6vr\u00fcnd\u0259 valideynl\u0259r, \u00e7ox t\u0259\u0259ss\u00fcfl\u0259r olsun ki, u\u015faqlar\u0131 il\u0259 m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259ri h\u0259ll etm\u0259k \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn d\u00fcn\u0259n\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r \u00f6zl\u0259rinin d\u00fczg\u00fcn sayd\u0131qlar\u0131 t\u0259rbiy\u0259 \u00fcsullar\u0131ndan istifad\u0259 edirl\u0259r. Bu da \u00e7ox zaman yeniyetm\u0259nin faci\u0259si il\u0259 n\u0259tic\u0259l\u0259n\u0259 bil\u0259r. Art\u0131q u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n ataya qar\u015f\u0131 h\u00f6rm\u0259t v\u0259 sevgisi birm\u0259nal\u0131 olaraq qorxu hiss\u0259sin\u0259 \u00e7evrilir.
\nValideynl\u0259r \u0259slind\u0259 u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n \u00f6z d\u00fcnyas\u0131n\u0131 k\u0259\u015ff ed\u0259 bilm\u0259si \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn ona imkan verm\u0259li, onlarda \u00f6zl\u0259rin\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131 inam hissi yaratmal\u0131d\u0131rlar. \u018fg\u0259r ata\u2013ana \u00f6vlad\u0131na azadl\u0131q vermirs\u0259, g\u00fcv\u0259nmirs\u0259, etibar etmirs\u0259, bu h\u0259min yeniyetm\u0259nin ail\u0259d\u0259n t\u0259dric\u0259n uzaqla\u015fmas\u0131 il\u0259 n\u0259tic\u0259l\u0259nir. O \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259 ba\u015fqa bir s\u0131\u011f\u0131nacaq axtarma\u011fa ba\u015flay\u0131r, bununla da yetkinlik ya\u015f\u0131nda olanlarda psixoloji g\u0259rginlik yaran\u0131r. Valideynl\u0259 \u00f6vlad ara-s\u0131nda bu ya\u015f d\u00f6vr\u00fcnd\u0259 h\u0259r hans\u0131 bir konfliktin ba\u015f verm\u0259m\u0259si \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn a\u015fa\u011f\u0131dak\u0131 m\u0259sl\u0259h\u0259tl\u0259rd\u0259n yararlanmaq olar:
\n*\u00d6vladlar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 birba\u015fa t\u0259nqid etm\u0259yin<\/strong>
\n*Onlar\u0131n maraq al\u0259min\u0259 daxil olun <\/strong>
\n*Fikirl\u0259rini sizinl\u0259 payla\u015fmas\u0131na \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131n <\/strong>
\n*\u00d6vladlar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n dostu olma\u011f\u0131 bacar\u0131n<\/strong>
\n*\u00d6z\u00fcn\u00fcz\u00fc n\u00fcmun\u0259 g\u00f6st\u0259rm\u0259yin<\/strong>
\n*Yeniyetm\u0259 o\u011ful v\u0259 ya q\u0131z\u0131n\u0131zla h\u0259ssasl\u0131qla yana\u015f\u0131n<\/strong>
\n*Onlar\u0131 ya\u015f\u0131dlar\u0131 il\u0259 m\u00fcqayis\u0259 etm\u0259yin <\/strong>
\n*\u00d6vladlar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n fikirl\u0259rin\u0259 \u00f6n\u0259m verin<\/strong>
\n*Onlar\u0131 q\u0131c\u0131qland\u0131ra bil\u0259c\u0259k m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259l\u0259r\u0259 toxunmay\u0131n <\/strong>
\n*U\u015faqlar\u0131n\u0131za ya\u015f d\u00f6vr\u00fc haqq\u0131nda informasiya verm\u0259y\u0259 \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131n<\/strong>
\n*Onlar\u0131n geyim v\u0259 g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fc\u015f m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259l\u0259rin\u0259 \u00e7ox m\u00fcdaxil\u0259 etm\u0259yin<\/strong>
\n*Sevdikl\u0259ri \u015feyl\u0259r\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131 birba\u015fa t\u0259nqid ya\u011fd\u0131rmay\u0131n<\/strong>
\n*\u00d6vladlar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 oldu\u011fu kimi q\u0259bul edin.<\/strong>
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