{"id":14882,"date":"2020-01-30T14:25:36","date_gmt":"2020-01-30T11:25:36","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.yeniterter.az\/?p=14882"},"modified":"2020-01-30T14:26:49","modified_gmt":"2020-01-30T11:26:49","slug":"valideyn-ovlad-munasib%c9%99tl%c9%99ri-haqqinda-bir-nec%c9%99-soz","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/yeniterter.az\/?p=14882","title":{"rendered":"VAL\u0130DEYN-\u00d6VLAD M\u00dcNAS\u0130B\u018fTL\u018fR\u0130 HAQQINDA B\u0130R NE\u00c7\u018f S\u00d6Z"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>\u00d6vlad borcu \u00e7\u0259tin v\u0259 qaytar\u0131la bilinm\u0259y\u0259n borcdur. \u00c7\u00fcnki h\u0259r bir valideyn u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n\u0131 boya-ba\u015fa \u00e7atd\u0131rana q\u0259d\u0259r \u00e7ox \u0259ziyy\u0259t \u00e7\u0259kir. <img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\" wp-image-14877 alignright\" src=\"http:\/\/www.yeniterter.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/\u0441\u043a\u0430\u0447\u0430\u043d\u043d\u044b\u0435-\u0444\u0430\u0439\u043b\u044b-3-1.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"180\" height=\"132\" \/>Atalar v\u0259 analar \u00f6vladlar\u0131n\u0131n xo\u015f g\u00fcz\u0259ran\u0131 \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn h\u0259r \u0259ziyy\u0259t\u0259, \u00e7\u0259tinliy\u0259 d\u00f6z\u00fcrl\u0259r. B\u00f6y\u00fck dramaturq<strong> C\u0259f\u0259r Cabbarl\u0131 \u201cAna\u201d<\/strong> \u015feirind\u0259 ana m\u0259h\u0259bb\u0259tind\u0259n b\u0259hs edib.<br \/>\n<strong>Ana! Ana! O ad\u0131n qar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda bir qult\u0259k<\/strong><br \/>\n<strong>H\u0259mi\u015f\u0259 s\u0259cd\u0259d\u0259 olmaq m\u0259n\u0259 f\u0259xar\u0259tdir;<\/strong><br \/>\n<strong>Onun \u0259liyl\u0259 b\u0259la b\u0259hrin\u0259 yuvarlansam,<\/strong><br \/>\n<strong>Yen\u0259 x\u0259yal ed\u0259r\u0259m b\u0259zmi-istirah\u0259tdir.<\/strong><br \/>\nValideyn\u0259 h\u00f6rm\u0259t etm\u0259k h\u0259r k\u0259sin m\u00fcq\u0259dd\u0259s borcudur. Valideyn xeyir-duas\u0131 deyil\u0259n bir ifad\u0259 m\u00f6vcuddur. Lakin \u0259fsuslar olsun ki, c\u0259miyy\u0259timizd\u0259 \u00f6vlad\u0131n\u0131n g\u0259l\u0259c\u0259yini fikirl\u0259\u015fm\u0259y\u0259n, narkotik, alkoqol i\u00e7kil\u0259rinin d\u00fc\u015fk\u00fcn\u00fc olan atalar v\u0259 ya \u00f6z u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015fd\u00fcy\u00fc m\u00fchit\u0259 qurban ver\u0259n analar vard\u0131r. \u00d6z h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131na \u00f6vladlar\u0131n\u0131n g\u00f6z\u00fc qar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda \u0259l qald\u0131ran atan\u0131n yan\u0131nda u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n psixologiyas\u0131ndan v\u0259 t\u0259rbiy\u0259sind\u0259n s\u00f6hb\u0259t ged\u0259 bilm\u0259z. \u00c7\u00fcnki t\u0259rbiy\u0259 prosesi irsiyy\u0259tl\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131d\u0131r. \u00c7ox vaxt t\u0259rbiy\u0259nin anadan as\u0131l\u0131 oldu\u011fu fikri deyilir. Ail\u0259 t\u0259rbiy\u0259si h\u0259m atadan, h\u0259m d\u0259 anadan as\u0131l\u0131d\u0131r.\u00c7\u00fcnki ail\u0259 ki\u00e7ik d\u00f6vl\u0259tdir. Onun ba\u015f\u00e7\u0131s\u0131 da atad\u0131r. Bel\u0259 bir atalar s\u00f6z\u00fc var: <strong>\u201cH\u0259r bir u\u015faq \u00f6z ail\u0259sinin g\u00fczg\u00fcs\u00fcd\u00fcr\u201d.<\/strong><br \/>\nB\u0259z\u0259n ata v\u0259 analar \u00f6vladlar\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6z arzulad\u0131qlar\u0131 kimi g\u00f6rm\u0259k \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn u\u015faqlara zor t\u0259tbiq edirl\u0259r. Bel\u0259 hallarla \u00fczl\u0259\u015f\u0259n yeniyetm\u0259l\u0259r \u0259ksin\u0259 evd\u0259n v\u0259 ail\u0259d\u0259n bezirl\u0259r v\u0259 n\u0259tic\u0259d\u0259 c\u0259miyy\u0259td\u0259 layiqli yer tuta bilmirl\u0259r. \u00d6vladlar aras\u0131nda qoyulan f\u0259rq, u\u015fa\u011f\u0131 ba\u015fqalar\u0131n\u0131n yan\u0131nda t\u0259hqir etm\u0259k, ona qar\u015f\u0131 inams\u0131zl\u0131q yetkinlik ya\u015f\u0131na \u00e7atmayan adamlarda yaln\u0131zl\u0131q hissini formala\u015fd\u0131r\u0131r. Valideyn ilk n\u00f6vb\u0259d\u0259 t\u0259l\u0259bkar olmal\u0131d\u0131r. \u00d6z ist\u0259yini xo\u015fluqla \u00f6vlad\u0131na sevdirm\u0259li, onda h\u0259min sah\u0259y\u0259 maraq oyatmal\u0131d\u0131rlar.<br \/>\nB\u0259zil\u0259ri is\u0259 u\u015fa\u011fa \u00e7ox pul verm\u0259kl\u0259 ona yax\u015f\u0131l\u0131q etdiyini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr. Lakin u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n bir g\u00fcnd\u0259 xeyli pulu n\u0259y\u0259 s\u0259rf etm\u0259sin\u0259 valideyn bigan\u0259 qalmamal\u0131d\u0131r. El aras\u0131nda bel\u0259 bir deyim var: <strong>\u201cU\u015fa\u011f\u0131 buyur, dal\u0131nca y\u00fcy\u00fcr\u201d.<\/strong><br \/>\nH\u0259r zaman ana-atalar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n qay\u011f\u0131s\u0131na qalmal\u0131y\u0131q. Onlar\u0131n k\u00f6nl\u00fcn\u00fc xo\u015f etm\u0259k, raz\u0131 salmaq \u0259n b\u00f6y\u00fck arzumuz olmal\u0131d\u0131r. H\u0259r k\u0259sin \u0259zb\u0259r bildiyi bel\u0259 bir ibr\u0259tamiz hekay\u0259 var:<!--more--><br \/>\n<strong>Bir g\u00fcn birisi Pey\u011f\u0259mb\u0259rimizd\u0259n soru\u015fur:<\/strong><br \/>\n<strong>\u2013 Ey Allah\u0131n R\u0259sulu! \u0130nsanlar aras\u0131nda \u0259n xo\u015f davran\u0131las\u0131 adam kimdir?<\/strong><br \/>\n<strong>\u2013 Anan \u2013 dey\u0259 R\u0259sulullah cavab verir.<\/strong><br \/>\n<strong>\u2013 B\u0259s sonra kimdir? \u2013 dey\u0259 h\u0259min adam yen\u0259 sual verir.<\/strong><br \/>\n<strong>Anan, \u2013 dey\u0259 Pey\u011f\u0259mb\u0259rimiz bu d\u0259f\u0259 d\u0259 eyni cavab\u0131 verir.<\/strong><br \/>\n<strong>\u2013 Daha sonra?<\/strong><br \/>\n<strong>\u2013 Yen\u0259 anan.<\/strong><br \/>\n<strong>\u2013 Ondan sonra kim g\u0259lir? \u2013 dey\u0259 h\u0259min \u015f\u0259xs yen\u0259 sual verdikd\u0259 bu d\u0259f\u0259 bu cavab\u0131 al\u0131r:<\/strong><br \/>\n<strong>\u2013 Atan!<\/strong><br \/>\nPey\u011f\u0259mb\u0259rimizin bu cavab\u0131 valideynl\u0259rimiz\u0259, \u0259l\u0259lx\u00fcsus, anaya verdiyi d\u0259y\u0259ri g\u00f6st\u0259rir.<br \/>\nValideynl\u0259r\u0259 h\u00f6rm\u0259t etm\u0259k \u00f6vladlar\u0131n\u0131n, u\u015faqlara g\u00f6z\u0259l t\u0259rbiy\u0259 verm\u0259k d\u0259 b\u00f6y\u00fckl\u0259rin m\u00fcq\u0259dd\u0259s borcudur.<br \/>\n<em><strong>\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 N\u00fcbar MEHD\u0130ZAD\u018f<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u00d6vlad borcu \u00e7\u0259tin v\u0259 qaytar\u0131la bilinm\u0259y\u0259n borcdur. \u00c7\u00fcnki h\u0259r bir valideyn u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n\u0131 boya-ba\u015fa \u00e7atd\u0131rana q\u0259d\u0259r \u00e7ox \u0259ziyy\u0259t \u00e7\u0259kir. Atalar v\u0259 analar \u00f6vladlar\u0131n\u0131n xo\u015f g\u00fcz\u0259ran\u0131 \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn h\u0259r \u0259ziyy\u0259t\u0259, \u00e7\u0259tinliy\u0259 d\u00f6z\u00fcrl\u0259r. B\u00f6y\u00fck dramaturq C\u0259f\u0259r Cabbarl\u0131 \u201cAna\u201d \u015feirind\u0259 ana m\u0259h\u0259bb\u0259tind\u0259n b\u0259hs edib. Ana! Ana! O ad\u0131n qar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda bir qult\u0259k H\u0259mi\u015f\u0259 s\u0259cd\u0259d\u0259 olmaq m\u0259n\u0259 f\u0259xar\u0259tdir; Onun \u0259liyl\u0259 b\u0259la b\u0259hrin\u0259 [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[10],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/yeniterter.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/14882"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/yeniterter.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/yeniterter.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/yeniterter.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/yeniterter.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=14882"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/yeniterter.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/14882\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/yeniterter.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=14882"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/yeniterter.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=14882"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/yeniterter.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=14882"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}